Divorce

I think this shouldn't happen. To marry, you have to be completely sure you can be with your partner for all your life. You need to know each other for a long time aswell and things like this, should not be rushed. I can't believe 18 year olds get married, straight after high school graduation. That's too fast.

 

It's stinks if your parents are divorce, I'll tell you that now. You need tob be positive and have reasons to be positive a certain couple should be togeather and bound in marriage. When divorce happens sometimes all the pain of it isn't realised so couples should be positive in each other that they WILL stay togeather for life.

 

Only a few amount of people find "true love" but even then, someone does something very messed up.

 

Divorce happens because of lack of communication. If people worked at their relationships and were more careful about who they get into a relationship with, they wouldn't marry the wrong person and their kids wouldn't have to go through life with the emotional scars.

 

Divorce? My two parents are not even married. They never did get married. I even know someone who's parents lives together & always breaks up & comes back again & has been doing it for 15 years.

 

I'm against divorce, but it should always depend on the circumstance. I'd hate the fact that there is a divorce if it means splitting up children. Then that is wrong.
But in some cases when its between a couple who really no longer loved one another, then i think a divorce is needed.

 

My parents have been divorced for years, and any trauma or emotional scars I have pre-date the divorce by a long way. Frankly, yes in a perfect world divorce probably shouldn't happen. However the circumstances vary so much from case to case that it is no use judging it so broadly.

Sure, some marriages break down due to a lack of communication. Others simply because people change over time. Familiarity breeds contempt after all. Either way I think the importance of marriage is over emphasized. You don't really need an ostentatious display of your affection for one another if you truly 'love' each other. But then we've been so heavily conditioned into believing that we want a marriage and the 'happily ever after' that goes with it, it's a surprise when it doesn't all go to plan.

 

Yes,while it would be good if divorce never happens,it will no matter what for some people.Some get lucky and split on good terms and not too many bad memories for the children if they have them,but usually not in those cases.On the other side,being married but always fighting,possibly even beating the other up or worse,could make things even worse then having the divorce.It really does depend.Also,while most 18 year olds who marry after school probably dont truly work,that doesnt mean it couldnt.But that is a different topic I believe

 

Yeah, I kind of agree. It does suck and it shouldn't happen and it's never fair on the kids. But it's probably better than living with parents who fight constantly, could screw up kids just as badly as a bad divorce will. So long as the divorce isn't messing, it should be alright, though any sort of divorce isn't really 'alright' is it?

 

True that,Shiva.Also,what really is bad isnt just the regular divorces,but all he celebrity divorces.That really just tears up the whole marriage process into nothing,making it mean nothing.If you are going to get married knowing that you probably are going to get divorced or just for plublicity,then you are an idiot and a bad example for others

 

don't get me started on celebrity divorces. Aren't they just all the more worse? Not only does the child have to face the fact their parents are no longer together, but everytime they turn on the TV they see there parents bickering over who gets what and how much (well some times anyways) and I guess the media doesn't help with it either

 

I don't think it's quite fair to have this discussion completely excluding religion. Why? Because then one can simply say "It's unnecessary."

To a religious person, the notion of marriage is a spiritual bond, and not just something that goes on a piece of paper.

Tossing aside the religion, what is the point of this piece of paper, or ritual, in the first place?


I mean yes, there are reasons beside religion to get married...and there is plenty of room for such discussions here, such as a worldly expression of one's love for another...but only to the religious is it a 'completely necessary' ritual.


Personally, I don't like the notion of people 'rushing into it' and then getting a divorce, only to rush into it a second time, because it does indeed have symbolic meaning to me, on a personal level.

 

On the religious part of it,I dont think they always see it that way,the ones who are married.They might stay married because of their religon,but then they end up in a loveless marriage,with more of a chance that they will both hate each other,make their children's lives more miserable,and possible domestic abuse.

 

That would be the people who rush into it, yes. Both the religious, and non-religious, can rush into marriage.

On a spiritual level, I think of marriage more like a degree. When you complete a university degree, you are awarded a diploma at a big fancy event, as a rite of passage. The event and the piece of paper, symbolize the transfer and development of knowledge. You don't get the degree when you enter university, you get it after you've accumulated said knowledge.

And so to me, I think of marriage as an equivalent event, symbolic of the development of a spiritual attachment to your loved one. (Note that 'spirituality' is not the same as 'religion' although they may interact...atheists are also spiritual in a way) Once you reach a certain level of spiritual / loving connection, you commemorate the event. Marriages which occur like this, I guarantee you, have a far higher success rate. And even in the instance of divorce or death, the person may not be able to 'rebuild' this spiritual bond with another person.


Many people have a different outlook...they get married either for show (ie. celebs) or in order to avoid having pre-marital sex in the case of some religious people. This is rushing into it far too quickly...and statistically, it is quite likely that such a bond cannot be built.

 

I believe divorce to be perfectly fine. Two people who are not in love should not be made to stay together.

 

i think divorce shouldent happen when u get married u should be shore that u will be with him / her forever u minus well just date a person and then dump them

 

i think that when you marry u are making a promise to your spouse to stay with them forever. i dont agree with divorse. you chose to marry them so u should stay with them.