Internet Relationships

I've done both, and i've dated online ALOT, most of them ended horribly? well not bad but, well im single. However they can work! my most recent relationship we met online and were freinds for years, then we moved in together and lived together for months. things just didnt work out, but in conclusion

both parties have to want to make it work for it to work. otherwise give up.

 

A purely internet relationship (online dating) is ridiculous to me. (No offense to anyone). What I mean is, you're "dating" someone online with no intentions of meeting them in person. That's just non-sense to me.

Online friendship is okay only if you have offline friends as well. I don't think anyone should have purely online friends!

 

that's a bit of a stretch. not every time its with " no intentions of meeting the in person" You can become freinds with someone online so what makes having a relationship with them any different? Not to bring up old blood but my recent relationship i was friends with her online for years, from there we talked all the time on the phone to on skype, we got heavily involved with one another. Sometime after that we moved in together and things were fine. we broke up because of reasons not related to " online" and i know some people that are engaged today with people they met onlineand knew for years. So it's certainly possible.

A relationship is 50 /50 you put in 100% it equates to 50 the other person puts in 100% it also equates to 50. If their putting 10% in and you're putting in your 100% that's 60% a 60% is an F.

In conclusion. Online / distance relationships can work. but only if each person equally wants it to work as bad and does not lose focus of that. But it's not for everybody and that's fine. that's what's makes everyone unique.

But i wouldnt call it non-sense.

 

I know. I'm only taking about those online relationships with no intentions of meeting in person. I probably could've worded it better though.

Sure, that's well and good if you eventually intend on continuing the relationship in person, but if not, what are you doing? In your case, you moved in with the girl you dated online. That's fine. But say you never intended to do so, then the time you spent on the phone and on skype are a waste i.m.o. And to answer your question, online friends are one thing but you're not trying to have an intimidate relationship with that person. It's like learning how to build a house and actually building a house. You can't learn to build until you actually are doing the building. Well, you can't truly learn about that person (intimidate relationship) if you aren't with that person.

Technically, that's 55% not 60. Plus, relationships shouldn't be defined by values. I'm sure most relationships are not even close to 50 / 50 but they still work.

And I'm simply stating online / distance relationships "never" work. There has to be actual physical space for a real relationship to pan out.

I would.

 

Well then we'll have to agree to disagree. i don't think you intend to get where im coming from. Nor do i think you want to.

Nothing is ever wasted time, it's always a learning experience and it's up to the person to learn from it or not. alot of people waste their time doing god knows what else in this world so i'ts all relative.

But yea w'ere so not about to agree on this topic and i've said my piece so yea im outie

 

@Vox, Bleh, I'll just say this in general. That's no fun! If it just amounts "to agree to disagree". There's no point in discussing any issue or posting for that matter. It actually seems like a role reversal on the topic at hand. You're saying it's pointless to continue any further because no one will change their mind and I'm saying almost the exact opposite. I think that's hysterical.

Anyway, learning experiences can be a waste. If you want to be an architect what's the point of studying medicine. Like Siri has told me multiple times, me and her aren't going to work out because it's not real. It's purely digital and people are only shown what the person wants them to see. Online, you can be anything that you're not. And a "pure" online relationship is doom to fail.

I can't say that I completely understand what you are saying in the first place. At the very least, you owe it to yourself to get your point across if nothing else. Tell me how those relationships manage? What is the learning experience from those relationship? Is it real? If there's anonymity on the Internet, how do you know what you've learned is correct? What purely online relationship that you know of, actually stood the test of time? Like I legitlly want to know what you're saying because I have no clue. All you've said so far: you given an example of yourself ( not purely online ), relationship advice ( it didn't answer my question ), and a summary that there's no such thing as wasted time (from a universal standpoint). I think; we can all agree that there has to be something physical for those relationships to actually pan out!

 

I said that because i get the feeling you don't care. So i don't feel a reason to really express my point any further.

 

Ugh. Wouldn't have written that long post if I didn't care. :/

 

Sure i can answer those things for you. But can you do me a solid and tell me what your Zodiac sign is? it's un-related but i'm curious.

 

My thoughts every time one of my online friends says they wish we could talk in person xD

Personally some of my best friends were met online. I've been close friends with a few people I've met on this forum for 5+ years. And I definitely count those people just as important to me as people I met in person.
I can be incredibly shy in person so online was kind of an escape for me in my younger years. It was a way for me to interact without my social anxiety getting in the way. Since growing out of that, I don't rely on forums as much.

Relationships are different. I won't say I'm against them because I've seen them work for people before. I probably can't say I wouldn't ever try it out either depending on the situation. Relationships are a more serious, intimate thing. In person interaction is important for a number of reasons. So, long distance and online could really put a strain on things.
I could see maybe meeting someone online, becoming friends, meeting each other, and starting a relationship maybe. But to be a couple over cyberspace with no intention of meeting sounds counterproductive.

 

It may in some cases but from personal experience I know even I caught myself putting my online friends on a pedestal so to speak when I was younger. At times when we did talk about meeting in person and how we would probably not meet each other's expectations I don't think it was taken seriously. I think a lot of it depends on your maturity level and theirs.

Maybe but it kind of deponds on the kind of relationship. Some people see dating as a way to look for something serious like marriage while others just want something more physical. Either way eventually one or both people would have to move or become closer for that to work and then they have to get to know each other for real without the crutch of online interaction.