Appearances

I can relate to this post. For a while, I've been battling with appearance issues that I have with myself. And the saying is true, yourself is the worst critic ever.

We lived in a society that likes to use sex and hot bodies to help sell a product or have good looking people on TV and in the movies. Hollywood likes to portray something that we are all not. I mean I don't think we would have a problem looking like Chris Hemsworth or Megan Fox, but what make us so unique is that we don't look alike (beside twins).

In the Gay World, appearance is EVERYTHING. You have your own categories based on your appearance, such as Twink (skin and bones), otters (Hairy skinny people), Bears, etc. So it is much more harder because some gays are materialistic and only like the outer shell.

We won't have that ideal body but we can do stuff to help ourselves to become healthier. I'm not happy with the way I look but that doesn't stop me from going to the gym, picking out the right outfits. And what I don't make up with looks, I make it up with my amazing personality. And I think the issue is that we don't get the self-love we deserve.

So everyone is beautiful. You look in a mirror and what you see is this pretty soul, who loves and feel the same way as everyone else. You are unique and you are you. Nothing can change that.

 

My skin. I've struggled with it for eight years and it has yet to get better. It's extremely frustrating considering I've tried everything and there's nothing I can do to stop it from breaking out. It's so difficult living in a world in which clear skin is everything, yet I'm one of the unfortunate people who just can't have it no matter what I do. I always have to remind myself that it could be worse, though. There's people out there who have issues far worse than my own.

 

Well, I'm not going to lie, I would like some things to change. Honestly, the main things I dislike about my appearance is mostly, despite a somewhat friendly demeanor I put on at times, most people tend not to want to approach me because I'm almost 6 ft even and built like a brick wall. It tends to be off-putting to many of my friends whom may be the same height, yet I dwarf in sheer size alone. Another would probably be my weight. I know most guys won't admit it, but I am a heavier guy, and I honestly hate it. The comments, the laughs... Hell even just buying clothes is a nightmare for someone of my build.

I guess I'd have to say that two things I really like about my appearance would be my hair. I have thick, brown, curly hair, but it's not to the point where it's almost an afro. It's more like loose curls, and it fits nicely. My second is my eye color and stuff like that. My eyes have always been an ice blue, almost like a neon. I guess it comes down to what everyone sees as their flaws though. It is more about what you want to like, and what you are willing to put forward with your personality.

 

Well with size, mostly large sizes, if you buy shirts with vertical lines, it creates an illusion that you are slimmer. Give it a try. For girls, buying clothes with scatter patterns will make others think they are slimmer as well. Big guys should go for plaid, vertical lines, and avoid bright colors, such as yellow.

I know this, because I am a big guy as well, but I've been doing cardio, so it has been helping with weight loss.

 

See, the problem I had Yukie, is that I went to the gym for three straight months, 3 times a week, doing mostly cardio and core. It didn't do anything for me. Be doing a mile or two a day, and I didn't drop more than a few pounds here and there. It kept shifting. It was actually frustrating enough that I quit the gym. I generally wear button ups and dress shirts, alongside jeans. It has generally worked for me.

 

How was your diet as you were doing that? The biggest factor that goes into losing weight is what/how much you're eating. I guess that's another conversation, though.

I forgot that another thing I don't like is my resting bitchface. Sometimes people think I'm mad when really I'm just peachy.

 

As for my diet, I'd be eating generally very little. Since I work in fast food it'd be maybe a sandwich from work when I got there, and a sandwich or can of soup or something when I got home. Never really more than two meals a day for a while.

And I have to agree on the face thing. Most of my friends think I'm constantly pissed when I'm just fine lol.

 

Well generally speaking, if you go to the gym and continue to the same routine, over and over again, your body is getting used to the workout and you aren't challenging yourself. So switch it up, have days, where you strictly work on cardio, then the next add abs, then next do legs and arms, and don't forget to rest!

As for the judgement at the gym, it is going to happen. What I tell myself is that at least I make an effort to come and work out. At least I am here, so you going to have to deal with all my glory.

Ive suffer from a skin condition call psoarsis, and it is chronic and perm. It appears as blotchy patches of dried dead skins and sometimes I flare up and it is red and very noticeable. And it didn't really hit me, until I was at the gym, (LOL) and the director of the gym approach me and asked me if I had MRSA (contagious disease) or open sores. I was so embarrassed that I kinda almost gave up on life and cried to sleep.

But then I realized something, who cares. What I have, others have it and go through the same judgement and stares. At first, it is hard to cope with a chronic disease, but it doesn't define who you are. Im sure all of us have friends. And our friends got to know us. And that it is what this is all about, define yourself they way you want to be define.

And as for the diet, just eat, dont starve yourself, but eat right. If you are going to eat greasy, balance that with something green. No SODA! Drink plenty of water to keep your body hydrated.

If you burn at least 400-600 calories a day, per week, You'll lose an average of 2-3 pounds.

 

Well lol there are alot of a gay thoughts going through a guys mind.

1. they are competing with one another, testosterone thing. Like who can bench more bro?
2. they are checking each other out, either it is admiring the muscle or something dirty.

No one really judges anymore in the gym. But a side note, we should never, ever, fat shame, slut shame, or body shame each other.